When you need a boost, are looking for answers, or need some positive reinforcement, try mentoring yourself! No, that doesn’t mean simply giving yourself a glorified ego stroking or a self-inflicted pat on the back. Mentoring yourself can be a constructive and productive way of self-evaluation and motivation. But you have to do it with the right attitude and with an honest commitment to self-reflection.

Everyone knows I’m an outspoken advocate of the formal mentoring process but its not always a reality in the workplace. Where organized mentorships are not available, informal relationships can and should be sought with experienced, respected individuals. However, that kind of arrangement is dependent upon the other parties availability, schedule, and willingness to participate. When a trusted adviser isn’t on hand, mentoring yourself can be an effective and worthwhile alternative.

Here are some tips, techniques, and strategies for mentoring yourself:

• Role play. Have a conversation with yourself, playing the part of “you” and the part of “mentor” in reversing roles. Actually speaking and engaging out loud, rather than just thinking about your situation, can truly bring about new epiphanies and different perspectives. It forces you to confront things at all angles and respond to questions in a more truthful and honest manner. Plus, in the “mentor” role, you’re stepping out of yourself and looking back from the outside, which will help you shed some light on how you might be perceived by others.
• Write a letter. Sit down and write yourself a letter that outlines your goals, your struggles, and your personal observations. Include a detailed self-evaluation that honestly critiques your performance, objectives, strengths, and weaknesses. Tell yourself what changes you could make, where your passions lie, and how you can go about achieving future aspirations. Putting your feelings and thoughts into words on paper sometimes helps to make them more real and more valuable.
• Embrace affirmations. Positive quotes, sayings, and mantras can be a leader’s best friend. Visual reminders and affirmations, printed out and displayed in prominent places, can give you a daily boost and serve as a friendly reminder to keep moving in the right direction. Scan Pintrest, business websites, or simply Google “success quotes” to draw inspiration. Better yet, come up with your own positive mantra that speaks directly to your own needs. An uplifting affirmation is akin to having your own personal mentor, providing encouragement and motivation when you need it.
• Schedule a review. Make it a habit to schedule monthly, bi-monthly, or even weekly self-reviews. Take the time to go over your accomplishments and setbacks as well as establish new goals or review your progress with ongoing goals. Identify issues, problem areas, or questions, and make a plan to implement changes where needed.

If possible, seek out a trusted, respected mentor to serve as a role model and guide. But for those times when mentors are unavailable, or when you need a quick attitude pick-me-up, look to the person you trust the most, and try mentoring yourself!

–Sheri Staak